Debi Hartwell - MA, CCC, CSAT-S, CMAT

Group Therapy

Sexual Health in Recovery Men’s Group
Partners Rebuilding and Healing

Sexual Health in Recovery Men’s Group

An ongoing therapy group based on the work of Patrick Carnes focusing on these recovery tasks:

  1. Breaking through denial
  2. Understanding the nature of addictive illness
  3. Surrendering to the process
  4. Limiting damage from behaviour
  5. Establishing sobriety or examining relapse prevention
  6. Participating in a culture of support
  7. Examining Steps 1-3, 4-6, and 7-12

This ongoing therapy group is informed by rigorous accountability, structured cognitive behavioural therapy, trauma work, insight oriented task work, is experiential and psycho-educational and fosters peer support. The group meets three nights a month for two hour sessions and is designed as part of a long-term treatment plan. The group consist of 6-7 other men and the therapist. The goal of the group is to maintain a group consciousness of sexual sobriety, accountability and personal integrity. Against a background of these themes, group members discuss their sexual, relational and life concerns using the facilitator and group members as a healthy sounding board toward growth and healthy interdependence. Group therapy is a powerful tool for supporting change. The sharing of one’s story with the group is empowering for all.

Investment: $90 per 2 hour session

The minimum requirement for attendance is 5 months, though many clients will attend the group for as long as a year or more, finding there the ongoing fellowship and support necessary for recovery from sex addiction.

“I came to you because I was living a lie. I love my wife and my family and yet I was doing things that betrayed me and the ones I hold so dear. I couldn’t figure it out. It must be because I am an awful, shameful person. I heard about you from my 12 step program. Immediately after the first session, I felt some relief. Over the course of some time, I was able to move my deep shame into feelings of guilt and I am learning to forgive myself. I joined a therapy group with Debi and with the help of the other guys in the group I found recovery. I talked about what I had done and they listened without judgment. When they knew the truth of what I had done, they didn’t leave me, they hung in with me. I was finally able to be totally honest. I can now tell the truth without the debilitating fear of rejection or abandonment.” - DJ, Vancouver, BC

Partners Rebuilding and Healing

Group TherapyHas your world been turned upside down in a whirlwind of betrayal, anger and confusion?

The addict is often the focus of treatment and the partner’s pain is often overlooked or seen as secondary. This group is an opportunity for partners to get the support they need in a safe and caring environment.

This experiential group will focus on the following:

  1. Develop and maintain a strong support system
  2. Establish some sense of emotional safety, including the creation of appropriate boundaries
  3. Develop and negotiate disclosure – what, when and how
  4. Understanding the specific ways that this trauma has affected you. This may include a re-experiencing of the trauma, social and emotional constriction, frequent triggering and physiological and emotional reactivity, anxiety, emotional arousal and hyper-vigilance.
  5. Understanding the numerous stages of loss and grief
  6. Discover and nurture a sense of personal resiliency and empowerment
  7. Nurture a sense of hope, regardless of what the future brings.

Suggested Readings:

  1. Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means
  2. Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts by Stefanie Carnes, Mari A. Lee, Anthony D. Rodriguez
  3. Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma for Partners Confronting Sex Addiction by Claudia Black and Cara Tripoli

Groups are ongoing with specific start dates. Contact me by phone 604-318-2351 or if you prefer email debi@debihartwell.com. Remember that email can be intercepted and is not strictly confidential.

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